Finding True Confidence

For most of my life, I considered myself a mix of introvert and extrovert. I was comfortable talking to women and even good at it, but there was always a certain unease beneath the surface because I often faked confidence, overcompensated or lied to get them to sleep with me. It wasn’t easy to be natural. Too often, I felt the pressure to be overly assertive, as if every interaction had to lead a shallow physical encounter. Looking back, I can see how much of this stemmed from a deeper void — a sense of loneliness and a craving for love and connection that I didn’t yet know how to address. It was also from years of social conditioning (peers, TV, etc.).

All of that began to shift when I started exploring prostate orgasms. It’s surprising how something so intimate and physical could help with emotional growth. Learning to have prostate orgasms changed not only how I experienced pleasure but also how I viewed myself and the people around me. 

From Aggression to Ease

Before this journey, I often found myself chasing sex for the wrong reasons. It wasn’t just about pleasure—it was about validation, about filling an emotional gap that I didn’t fully understand. But as I explored prostate play, something unexpected happened: I started wanting sex less, and not in a bad way. It wasn’t about losing interest; it was about shifting my focus. I began to connect with my own body and emotions in a deeper, more meaningful way. For the first time, I felt truly at peace with myself. 

This newfound self-connection translated directly into my interactions with women. I became calmer, more present, and more authentic. Instead of approaching conversations with an agenda, I started to simply enjoy the exchange. I stopped feeling the need to prove anything or to seek external validation. Women noticed the difference, and so did I. It was as if my energy had shifted, and with it, the way I navigated relationships.

A Softer Outlook on Life

The changes didn’t stop there. This new sense of ease and confidence extended beyond my interactions with women to other aspects of my life. I became less reactive and more grounded. For example, if someone bumped into me at a bar—a situation that might have triggered annoyance or hostility in the past—I found myself letting it go without a second thought. My perspective had broadened, and I began to see past the petty conflicts and superficial issues that used to bother me.

Even my relationships with other men improved. I felt less competitive, less threatened, and more open to genuine connection. By learning to love myself, literally and sexually, I unlocked a deeper sense of harmony with the world around me.

Listening to the Heart Within

In some cultures the prostate is sometimes referred to as “the second heart of a man.” And in yoga communities, this area is associated with the sacral chakra—the energy center linked to emotions, creativity, and intimacy. Tapping into this part of myself felt like opening a door to my inner self and letting the light shine in. The more I explored, the more I realized how much of my old behavior was shaped by societal expectations and outdated ideas about masculinity. By shedding those layers, I discovered a version of myself that felt more authentic, more loving, and more at peace with the world. 

The Journey Continues

This process of self-discovery is far from over, and I wouldn’t want it to be. Every day, I learn something new about myself and the way I connect with others. The prostate might be a small part of the body, but its impact on my life has been anything but small. It’s taught me to slow down, to listen, and to love—both myself and those around me—with greater depth and authenticity. This has given me the true confidence I was always seeking. Not the manufactured one I'd been previously hiding behind my whole life.